The Indian Women Vloggers Making Visible the Invisible Drudgery of Housework

Through the emerging trend of Indian housewives uploading vlogs of their daily routines to YouTube emerges an increasing awareness of the unfair gendered expectations of Indian middle-class womanhood.

‘I am pregnant’— the title of the YouTube video screamed in all caps. As I press play, the screen fills with the face of a rosy cheeked young woman in a nightie. She is schoolgirl pretty. Face flushed, she rambles on for long minutes before announcing the good news.

Tina, the host of the channel, is a housewife based in a village in West Bengal. Her YouTube channel, ‘My Village Life Tina’, where she posts videos of her daily routine of housework, cooking, and caregiving duties, has more than 156,000 followers.

Middle-class Indian housewives like Tina are among a growing breed of Indian YouTube vloggers, from across the middle classes (lower to upper middle class, and rural to urban) who bring to their followers the drudgery of unending housework and caregiving. These vlogs have been inspiring women from similar backgrounds, mostly other housewives, to enter the space of content creation. Their vlog channels have become complete ecosystems in themselves, standing in for missing support networks in the lives of many viewers. The women discuss everything from their marital problems to the general tediousness of their lives while documenting the sameness of each day. In that sameness, they make visible the invisibility of care work and their role in it. 

There must be hundreds of these daily routine vlogs by women who stay at home – women who have never worked but wanted to or women who have given up work after marriage and children, according to their own admissions in these vlogs. Some of them are educated, some even highly-educated, but their lives now are just a maze cooking, cleaning, and serving their husbands and families.

Also read: How Gendered Labour Was Hard-Wired Into Upper-Middle-Class Households

Nilanjana Bhowmick
Lies Our Mothers Told Us
Aleph Book Company, 2022.

They have hundreds of thousands of followers who watch their vlogs where they chronicle their daily lives, which consist of long hours of looking after their families. These vlogs are immensely popular – the majority of the audience appears to be other housewives, as I gathered from reading through comments, women who draw strength from knowing others are going through the same trials as themselves – the comments sections of these vlogs are ample proof of that.

The content of these vlogs also presents a striking sociocultural exposé. They take us right into the heart of an Indian family, usually a space that is closed and guarded, where outsiders are not allowed. 

With each of her episodes, Tina lets viewers into her world without any compunctions; she shares every small detail of her life. There are episodes where she attends weddings or visits her relatives, shares her beauty routines or a challenge she’s facing with one of the family members. But most of the content is about her daily life as a housewife – minutes of footage of her cooking, cleaning, or helping her mother-in-law cook and clean. Her day starts early and the grind continues until late at night. 

In early 2022, Tina’s YouTube channel had thousands of subscribers. Hers is not a one-off success story, but part of an amazing feat achieved by many middle-class Indian women, one that has created a living document of gender roles within our homes, the unequal distribution of housework and caregiving, and the secondary role of women in their families. 

These women, in their 20s, 30s, 40s, are all middle class housewives, who fill up their followers’ screens daily with their mops and kitchen knives, sweating it out in the kitchen, washing and drying clothes, sweeping and mopping and being constantly at the beck and call of their family members, serving their husbands and children – every day. But if you look beyond the shaky videos with choppy transitions and the amateur voice-overs, you will hear the story they are telling. 

Do these women know they are documenting the daily misogyny of Indian families that finds place in annual gender parity reports in terms of alarming statistics but has never been worthy of sustained outrage? 

They don’t. 

But what drives them is a deep sense of injustice that often boils over into their videos. And of course, in their lives with limited choices, these videos have brought a lucrative economic opportunity like no other. With hundreds of thousands of followers, the women don’t just earn from YouTube ads every month but also from product placements. 

Also read: India Ranks 135th Out of 146 Countries for Gender Parity, Worst for ‘Health and Survival’: Report

It was early 2020 when I chanced upon these housewife vloggers. During one of my 3 am staring-at-the-ceiling moments, I came across a video by someone I thought was a mommy vlogger. But I was a little surprised because Payal, of ‘Simple Living Wise Thinking’, was not one of those sharply turned-out mommy vloggers, in perfectly matched clothes and make-up, sharing fitness, self-care, and parenting tips and tricks, speaking in perfect English or Hindi.

Payal seemed earthy and approachable, and simple. She spoke Hindi with a heavy Bengali accent and had no qualms about vlogging in her nightie, an article of clothing that screams middle class like no other. And Payal is the quintessential middle-class Indian housewife, although she lives in the United States. She is adorable in her simplicity and her acceptance of her life where she is solely responsible for housework and caregiving. It doesn’t matter that she lives in the US, where there is a semblance of equality between spouses when it comes to housework. She is often self-deprecatory and accepts the sheer drudgery of being an Indian housewife – solely responsible for cooking, cleaning, and child-rearing – with annoying compliance. 

Payal’s daily routine vlog led me to Tina’s, and to many others like hers. Payal shares recipes, challenge videos, and some tips to better manage daily life but mostly her viewers can watch her chat away while she does her housework. Her videos opened up the world of India’s housewife vloggers for me. 

Was I surprised by what I saw? Not really. I grew up in a middle class household. I keenly observe the lives of my mostly middle-class friends. 

These women in nighties, cooking, sweeping, cleaning, sharing their beauty routines, sometimes advertising beauty products or clothes or kitchen equipment, their make-up loud, clothes sometimes garish and mismatched, sometimes pretty and simple, their conversations unrehearsed and often abrupt, are everywoman. They are great examples of the conservative modernity of India’s middle classes.

These videos are a living project, a testimony to how the majority of women in this country live, and the inequalities they battle with throughout their lives.

(Excerpted with permission from Lies Our Mothers Told Us, Aleph Book Company)

At ‘Non-Political’ Press Conference, Women Present 56 Tough Questions For PM Modi

The questions range from hunger, rural distress, farmers’ suicides, unemployment, demonetisation and attacks on the judiciary, press and various central institutions.

New Delhi: More than 150 women activists from the capital and across India held a press conference to highlight targeted attacks on the constitutional rights of women in India.

In a jibe at Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s recent ‘apolitical’ interview with actor Akshay Kumar, the women, while posing 56 hard-hitting questions to the PM, called it a ‘non-political’ press conference.

Calling it an “exercise in self-promotion in the middle of the election cycle”, the activists said, the interview “trivialised the real issues being faced by people and completely glazed over questions related to the failures of his government, including issues of unemployment, grand corruption, crony capitalism, rising hate, inflation and human rights violations.”

According to them, “An atmosphere of fear and insecurity has been fostered with a steady deterioration in the rule of law and the basic constitutional commitment to equality”.

Also read: For the BJP, ‘Women’s Rights’ Are Really All About the Men

“The last few years have witnessed a frontal attack on the constitution, particularly on the freedom of expression it guarantees – the right to dress, speak, write, eat and choose – which impacts women disproportionately. Voices of dissent have been systematically silenced,” a press release read.

Helming the press conference were Anjali Bhardwaj, Shabnam Hashmi, Purnima Gupta, Dipta Bhog, and Amrita Johri of Women March for Change.

“The theme of the 56 questions we are asking our 56” chhaati (chest) prime minister are themed on hunger, rural distress, farmers’ suicides, unemployment and demonetisation. Our questions relate to the attacks on institutions such as the judiciary, press, Reserve Bank of India, the Central Bureau of Investigation during the last five years,” activist Hashmi reportedly said at the press conference.

The 56 questions 

1. How many jobs were created in the last 5 years? Why is the government suppressing official data on unemployment? EPFO (Employee Provident Fund) data represents formalisation of economy, not job creation & most loans under Mudra are too small to create any employment.

2. The stated objectives of demonetisation were – unearthing black-money, stopping terror funding, abolishing corruption and checking counterfeit currency. Where is the evidence to show that demonetisation achieved these objectives?

3. Why has the government stopped publishing data on farmer suicides since 2015? Why did the government fail to address the issue?

4. Where is Bhrashtachar-mukt Bharat?

5. More than 40 whistleblowers- the real Chowkidars- have been killed since 2014 for exposing corruption and wrongdoing. Why has the BJP government not operationalised the Whistleblowers Protection Act passed in 2014?

6. BJP had promised that the Grievance Redress Bill (to provide time bound and effective redress of peoples complaints) that lapsed in 2014 will be passed if the party came to power. Why has the bill not been re-introduced by the BJP in the last 5 years?

7. Why did the government not engage with the unprecedented Kisan agitations in which lakhs of farmers marched across India to highlight the agrarian crisis?

8. By what percentage have farm incomes increased? The BJP had promised doubling of farmer incomes by 2022.

9. The BJP had promised to bring back black money stashed abroad and deposit Rs. 15 lakh in every Indians bank account. How much black money has been brought back in the last 5 years?

10. Why is no accountability being fixed for the massive intelligence failure in Pulwama which led to the death of more than 40 CRPF jawans?

11. Who is funding the BJP? Why did the BJP introduce electoral bonds which allows for anonymous donations to political parties?

12. Why is the BJP fielding Pragya Thakur, a terror accused, who insulted Hemant Karkare?

13. Why did senior minister of BJP garland and welcome those convicted of mob lynching?

14. BJP came to power on the plank of anti-corruption. Why was the Prevention of Corruption Act weakened during the BJP regime by requiring government to give permission before any investigation into cases of corruption.

15. Ex- RBI governor Raghuram Rajan submitted a list of bank defaulters in February 2015. What action was taken on that list? Why is the government reluctant to make that list – and the action taken – public?

16. Why doesn’t Mr. Modi address the doubts around his educational qualifications? When results of universities are, as a matter of practice, publicly published, why are the results of 1978 batch of Delhi University being supressed, the year in which Mr. Modi claims to have graduated? Instead of fighting the matter in court, why doesn’t the Delhi University make public the records of 1978?

17. Mr. Modi had said if the demonetisation decision turned out to be wrong, he would be prepared to face any punishment. Why is there no government report on the decision and its impact? Who was consulted before the demonetisation decision? Were macro economic disruptions understood and factored for? IMF chief economist has estimated that quarterly GDP growth declined by at least two percentage points because of demonetisation, while RBI reports show negligible impact on extinguishing black money (99% demonetised currency deposited).

18. Why did it take the BJP government nearly 5 years to appoint the Lokpal? The Lokpal Law was passed in 2014. The issue of the absence of the Leader of Opposition could have been addressed by amending the law.

19. Why has the BJP government been constantly trying to undermine the RTI Act? First through proposed changes to rules, then by attempting to amend the RTI Act and finally by trying to set up a sarkari complaints committee to subvert the independence of information commissions.

20. Why did the BJP government illegally remove the CBI Director Alok Verma and appoint an interim CBI chief while bypassing the selection committee?

21. Why has there been deafening silence from the government on the rising hate, crimes against minorities, especially muslims?

22. Why has the Prime Minister not addressed a press conference in the last 5 years? A press conference/interview where the questions are not pre-screened.

23. Why doesn’t the Prime Minister address the allegations of the Rafale scam? What was the formal procedure followed before the PM announced the purchase of 36 Rafale aircraft on April 10, 2015? Who all were consulted before the decision? Why was the Make in India and transfer-of-technology component of the original deal scrapped? Why did India agree to pay three times as much per aircraft? Why was Anil Ambani’s Company which was set up just a few days ago awarded the off-set contracts for the Rafale deal? Former French President has said on record that Modi government pushed Anil Ambani’s company as the partner.

24. Why doesn’t the PM and the government allow a Joint Parliamentary Committee to examine the allegations of corruption in purchase of Rafale? If there is no corruption, what are they scared of?

25. Why has the government failed to stop the downward spiral of the Rupee?

26. How did Mallya, Nirav Modi, Mehul Choksi escape from India?

27. In the last 5 years, not a single appointment to the Central Information Commission was made unless citizens went to court. Why did the government always fail to fill vacancies in the RTI watchdog in a time-bound manner? Even now 4 posts are lying vacant.

28. Why has the BJP remained silent over the murders of journalist-activist Gauri Lankesh and rationalist M.M. Kalburgi?

29. What is the view of the BJP on consumption of beef in the north-eastern and southern states of India?

30. Why doesn’t BJP accept the Supreme Court verdict in the Sabrimala case allowing entry of women in the temple? Isn’t instigating violence, creating a riot-like situation to prevent implementation of a Supreme Court judgment, anti-national?

31. Why was more than 50% budget of the Beti Bachao – Beti Padhao scheme spent on “media-related activities” or publicity between 2014 and 2019?

32. Why has the government not undertaken a detailed, official evaluation of the Ujjwala scheme? How many households use gas cylinders 3 months, 6 months and 1 year after getting the LPG connection? Evidence from the ground suggests that due to the unaffordably high LPG prices, BPL women, who have received the connection, are unable to maintain the much-hyped gas connection and prefer to go back to their original cheaper sources of fuel.

33. How many toilets build under Swachh Bharat Scheme are actually in a functional condition with water supply? How much budget of the scheme was spent on publicity?

34. Crimes against women have increased by 34% between 2014 and 2018 under the BJP Government. What action has the government taken to address the issue?

35. BJP had pledged to enact the Women’s Reservation Bill guaranteeing 33 per cent reservation for women in the legislatures. Why was the Bill not passed? What attempts did the BJP government make to prioritise and steer the bill through Parliament?

36. Why has the budget for Sarva Shiksha Abhiyan been reduced every year? Education spending touched a 10-year low in 2018-’19

37. Why has the government failed to address severe job loss for women leading to their economic disempowerment and exclusion? According to the Centre for Monitoring Indian Economy (CMIE), in 2018, as a category, women lost around 88 lakh jobs as compared with 22 lakh jobs lost by men. Rural women lost more jobs than their urban counterparts did.

38. Enrolment in government schools has been declining due to teacher shortage, quality of education. What steps has the government taken to address these issues? How many posts of school teachers in government schools are vacant across India? Why has the government not filled these posts?

39. Why has the government not taken any action on the 75+ starvation deaths reported from across the country? Why has no task-force/committee been set up to look into the cases of starvation deaths and formulate appropriate policy? Why has the government been denying and supressing starvation as the cause of these deaths despite clear evidence, including post-mortem reports in some cases?

40. What is the stand of the BJP government on the increasing number of encounter deaths in states like UP?

41. Why were the Land Acquisition & Rehabilitation Act & Mines and Minerals (Development & Regulation) Act (MMRDA) amended to allow private companies to acquire Adivasi and forest land without the free and informed consent of gram sabhas?

42. Why did the Modi government fail to defend the Forest Rights Act in the case in Supreme Court? What does the government intend to do to prevent displacement of millions of Adivasis from their land?

43. Why are fuel prices still high in India despite fall in international prices?

44. Instead of strengthening public provisioning for health especially in primary healthcare, to ensure quality healthcare for all, why has the government been pushing insurance schemes which benefit private companies? Why was the healthcare budget slashed by the government? (slashed by 20% in 2014-’15. In 2015-’16, it was further slashed by 5.7%. This continued in 2016-’17.)

45. Why has the budget for Mid-Day Meal Scheme been reduced from Rs. 10,523 crores in 2014-’15 to Rs. 9949 crore in 2018-’19? Expenditure on Mid Day meal slashed by 21% between 2014 and 2018-19.

46. Maternity Benefit has to be atleast Rs. 6,000 as per National Food Security Act. Why does Pradhan Mantri Matru Vandana Yojana (PM-MVY) provision for only Rs. 5,000?

47. Why was the Parliament bypassed on important legislative changes by bringing ordinances (such as on amendments to Aadhaar Act to allow its use by private companies)?

48. What steps has the government taken to address the critical issue of wage delay under NREGA?

49. Why the U-turn and complete change of stance on Aadhaar?

50. As CM of Gujarat, Mr. Modi had said entitlement of 5 kgs per person under National Food Security Act was completely inadequate and would push people to starvation. Why did the BJP government fail to increase the entitlement by even 1 kg per family?

51. Why did the government fail to address the issue of deaths of manual scavengers while cleaning sewers? Manual scavenging has been banned yet the practice continues with people being coerced to clean sewers with no safety equipment.

52. What is the total expenditure on the foreign trips of the Prime Minister in the last 5 years?

53. Why did the government choose the Money Bill route for significant legislative changes such as Aadhaar Act or provision for Electoral Bonds? Was it done to prevent scrutiny and debate of the provisions in the Rajya Sabha?

54. What is the total expenditure on publicity spent by Modi Sarkar?

55. Despite clear evidence showing that claims of savings due to Aadhaar are highly exaggerated and false, why has the Prime Minister and government been repeating these claims?

56. Why were trans rights groups and organisations not consulted by the BJP government on the amendments that the government brought to the Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Bill, 2016? What steps has the government taken to address concerns of the LGBTIQ community?

On Triple Talaq: Patriarchy Is Not Just ‘Women’s Issues’, Marriage Is No Holy Cow

From academic jargon, the word ‘patriarchy’ has come a long way in Indian public sphere. But it has a long way to go yet.

Contrary to the impression one gets from the popular social media usage these days patriarchy is not simply a system of male-dominance over women. According to bell hooks, “Patriarchy has no gender”. Elsewhere she says, “Patriarchy is political-social system that insists that males are inherently dominating, superior to everything and everyone deemed weak, especially females, and endowed with the right to dominate and rule over the weak.”

Patriarchy is not just ‘women’s issues’

It is an entangled problem of power. It is a problem for all those that are deemed weak.

It is regrettable that many women’s right activists who critique patriarchy and root for gender justice among Muslims ignore the social and cultural impact of economic exclusion and exploitation of Muslims. While intersectionality of identities is important it is also equally, if not more, important to see the interlinkages of political and economic conditions. Advocates of women’s rights who also have a commitment to secularism face a dilemma – as do Muslim women who do not wish to align with Hindutva elements – lest they forfeit the security and right to dignity of the entire community.

Also read: Triple Talaq: Why Just Muslims, Let’s Criminalise the Abandonment of All Wives

It is more difficult to demand (and win) changes in economic relations that will make women’s lives better than to demand and win laws on violence against women. When we look at the actual use of these laws to bring the responsible to book and convict them, it is easy to understand why.

If the demand is for a law that provides the majoritarian oppressor an opportunity to dominate the weak (yes, all men are not equally powerful) the task is easier.  Without broader changes in outlook on the forms of discrimination Muslims face, it will be difficult for all to share the view of the criminalisation of arbitrary triple talaq as a ‘victory’ of Muslim women.

Muslims women celebrate the Supreme Court's decision on triple talaq. Credit: PTI

Muslims women celebrate the Supreme Court’s decision on triple talaq. Credit: PTI

Personal law is not just ‘women’s issues’

The Uniform Civil Code in India is often understood simplistically as abolition of Muslim Personal Law, which has been declared oppressive for Muslim women. In fact, legal pluralism itself is declared gender-unjust. This perspective prevails not only among those who are prejudiced against Muslims, but also among many well-meaning people.

The status of deserted Hindu women is often invoked to question the ‘sympathy’ shown by the BJP government to the Muslim women on the receiving end of arbitrary triple talaq – but there exist in India other laws that are blatantly communal, for example tax sops to the ‘Hindu Undivided Family’.

The HUF exists purely for the purpose of revenue and tax assessment, distanced from the socio-cultural concept of the South Asian joint family. It discriminates on the basis of religion because it applies only to Hindus (defined as any person who is not Muslim, Christian, Jew or Parsi), giving them undue economic advantage constitutionally, over and above all the advantages through embedded social discrimination.

Patriarchy reinforces other forms of dominance

On one hand, capitalism propped up by the patriarchal division of labour and unequal rights leads to the subjugation of women and other weaker sections of society. On the other hand, certain strands of feminisms have aided this capitalist project by belittling care roles (increasingly handed over to domestic workers). Third-world or postcolonial feminists have pointed out that the effects of patriarchy are magnified for those already marginalised.

Movements for women’s control over their bodies and their life choices have all too often been subverted by patriarchal forces and processes for their own ends. These subverted narratives have fed vigilantisms at national and international levels. For example, the so-called ‘war on terror’ was legitimised by calls to rescue Afghan (or Muslim, in general) women. In India, people protesting sexual violence against women have called for the death penalty even for juveniles.

Also read: How Brahmanical Patriarchy Can Directly Affect Community Mental Health

Revenge is not justice

While we notice the normalisation of organised vigilantism, we cannot ignore the popularisation of regressive ideas of justice through inflicting painful punishments on ‘criminals’ or perpetrators. The narrative of revenge is often foisted upon stories of long and frustrating battles for legal justice.

Families and marriages are especially raucous institutions with potential for deep bitterness. It is not a mark of civil society geared towards reform to insist that women whose husbands attempt to leave them through arbitrary triple talaq in one sitting (already held illegal by the Supreme Court) get justice only if these unwilling husbands are thrust into jail. If husbands inflict violence against women, there are criminal laws to be invoked, regardless of the situation on talaq.     

Marriage is not a holy cow

Muslim marriage, especially, is a civil contract. Consent to enter the contract of marriage is all there is to the Muslim nikah. And the consent of both parties to stay married is crucial to upholding the contract.

The Prophet said that marriage should not be made difficult. So exiting marriage—should the relationship between husband and wife sour—must not be seen as the end of the road for the woman, just as a rape does not make a woman zinda laash. What makes divorce such a catastrophic event for an average South Asian woman is the lack of social and economic autonomy available to them.

Also read: The Politics of Arranged Marriage in 21st Century India

The idea that even unhappy marriages should be saved at any cost is both deeply un-Islamic and anti-feminist. What we insist on is that the procedure for exiting an unhappy marriage is not arbitrary but fair to both wife and husband, and that the economic interest of the children and the wife are protected.

Challenging patriarchy cannot be confined to institutional and Statist measures 

Often men and women have a public posture against patriarchy in their public lives but retreat into the familiarity of patriarchy once back within the home, family or community. Challenging patriarchy at these levels is extremely important.

A more just world cannot be built by only demanding and getting new laws. Muslim communities in India are scarred deeply by lack of education on one hand, and on the other, Muslim intellectual, political and spiritual leaders have not invested enough energy in educating themselves with in a non-patriarchal reading of Islam. Some harbour regressive misconceptions themselves and other ‘good’ ‘liberal’ Muslims castigate the community for these regressive misconceptions and wish upon them ‘incarceration as deterrence’. Clearly, a truly empathetic reformist impulse needs to be re-kindled.

Ghazala Jamil is assistant professor at the Centre for the Study of Law and Governance, Jawaharlal Nehru University.

Anti-FGM Movement WeSpeakOut Expresses Disappointment Over Michigan Court Ruling

On Tuesday, a federal judge in Detroit struck down a law that criminalised female genital mutilation, that had been adopted by the US Congress over two decades ago.

New Delhi: WeSpeakOut, a survivor-led movement that strives to end female genital mutilation for Bohra women, issued a statement expressing disappointment on the Michigan court’s ruling that struck down a 22-year-old federal law that outlawed female genital mutilation.

Clarifying that the charges against Dr Nagarala were dismissed on technical grounds because the judge stated that FGM was a “local criminal activity”, the statement also pointed out that the judge referred to FGM as a “despicable practice” and noted that it was a form of physical assault. The statement, issued by founder Masooma Ranalvi, also expressed hope that the US government would appeal against the decision of the judge.

On Tuesday, a federal judge in Detroit struck down a law that criminalised female genital mutilation, that had been adopted by the US Congress over two decades ago.

Also Read: Genital Mutilation Plagues Thousands of Bohra Women in India

US District Judge Bernard Friedman stated that the US Congress did not have the authority to pass legislation against female genital mutilation, as it was a “local criminal activity,” and that federalism concerns prevented the Congress from enacting laws in this regard as it is the prerogative of the states to regulate and outlaw the practice. The federal judge issued this ruling in a case that involved a Michigan doctor, Dr Nagarala who is accused of performing female genital mutilation on two sevn-year old girls. The families of the girls belonged to the Dawoodi Bohra community, a Shiite sect from India. This was the first time in the US anyone faced prosecution under the federal FGM law.

The Shiite sub-sect, along with some other Sunni Muslim sects, practice FGM in the form of Khatna/Khafz or female circumcision along with some other Sunni Muslim sects. The practice of FGM is prevalent in the Bohra community and WeSpeakOut has released an extensive data report documenting how widespread the practice of FGM is in India.

Representatives from the global anti-FGM movement and UN Agencies also met in India to discuss the actions need to curb the practice. Underscoring the need to protect young girls from genital mutilation, they called for the Indian government to enact laws that prosecute the practice under existing criminal laws. Participants also recommended that the government create awareness about the ill-effects of the practice and direct the medical community to refrain from performing it. Speak Out on FGM has renewed resistance against the practice through an online petition that has gathered support from over 83,000 people.

Also Read: With Data, an Attempt to Lift the Veil of Secrecy Around Female Genital Mutilation

Several members of the Dawoodi Bohra community spoke out against the age-old custom of female genital mutilation that violates child rights and human rights following an Australian judgment that sentenced a Dawoodi Bohra community leader, a former midwife and a mother of two girls over the mutilation of two minor girls in the country.

In September, the Supreme Court of India referred the plea challenging the practice of FGM to a larger five-judge constitutional bench. The Dawoodi Bohra Women’s Association for Religious Freedom (DBWRF) has argued, before the apex court, that “the practice of khafz is an essential part of the religion,” and that the right to practice and propagate religion is enshrined in the Constitution. The practice of khafz is recognised as FGM and a violation of human rights.

There Is No Room for Religious Fundamentalism Among Us

Added to the fallacy of a nation giving itself a religion, is the fact that religion everywhere has been boiled down into laws and rules made by men.

The following is the text of the 25th Justice Sunanda Bhandare Memorial Lecture delivered by Nayantara Sahgal at the India International Centre on October 9, 2018.

When Murlidharji asked me to deliver this lecture in his wife’s memory, I was intimidated by the long list of eminent speakers before me. But I accepted because these lectures are in memory of a woman who made a distinguished mark in a man’s world. We live in a conservative medieval-minded patriarchy. The majority of women in this country are not allowed to make decisions that intimately concern them like marriage and giving birth. The majority do not own or handle money, even when they themselves are earning it. They don’t own their bodies and they are not in control of their lives. The abuses they may suffer in their homes remain secret and unreported, for fear of the consequences if they speak out, or social stigma, or fear of the police.

Many women who are privileged, and in a position to strike out, don’t do so. They accept the limitations imposed on them. They are content to remain protected by privilege in return for recognising that it’s a man’s world. Sunanda Bhandare accepted no limitations and was supported by a family that took pride in her ambition and her achievements. She achieved the heights in her chosen profession – which, incidentally, is a profession that is much in need of women – and she would have gone on to greater distinction if illness had not tragically cut short her life.

I have been struck by two statements of hers. One defines her position on the meaning of a judge’s role in a developing society, and the other statement is her view on the very meaning of civilisation. On what a judge’s role should be, she said: “In developing societies, judges can be the sentinels of progress.” This interpretation of justice, and of judges as guardians of progress, is crucial to any society but more specifically to a developing society. Laws can light the way ahead to take a country forward for human betterment, but they will remain pieces of paper unless they are upheld in judgements, and unless judges stand guard over them. On the meaning of civilisation, this is what she said:  “A woman’s place in society marks the level of civilisation.” To put it differently, a society is only as civilised as the way it treats its women. No society has the right to call itself civilised unless its women citizens have the same rights and freedoms as men have. So let me begin by saluting the woman for whom justice in general, and gender justice in particular, was crucial for progress,  and whose memory we are honouring today.

According to her view of what civilisation means, India in 2018 is a country that does not deserve to be called civilised. The enlightened vision of our founding fathers who established gender equality at independence – overturning centuries of injustice by establishing equality in law –  and who aspired to give women their equal and dignified place in society at long last – that vision has degenerated into an environment where India is now seen as the world’s most dangerous country for women. We do not need foreign observers to tell us this. It is a fact that Indian women and even little girls are not safe, in the home, on the street, or in the workplace.  Gender injustice is much too weak a phrase to apply to this shameful state of affairs. Added to the hangover of persisting age-old injustices, and crimes against women, there is now a lawless climate of violence, which of course targets men, as well as women and children, and is emboldened by a fundamentalist mindset that is the subject of my talk. But although this situation endangers all citizens, women are its special targets and always its worst sufferers. It has made life especially dangerous for them if we look at the rising graph of gang rapes. Rape is central to the mob violence we see today. It makes brutal use of women’s bodies to humiliate and assert its power over an entire community.

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This prevailing climate is different from anything we have seen in India before. It is not merely criminal, or ‘communal’, or ‘divisive’. It is a result of, and it has the authority of, a fundamentalist mindset given free rein by a political ideology. But before I get on to fundamentalism,  let me explain what true believers mean by religion. And I am speaking as a true believer.

Religion is a relationship between a human being and God. All the men and women of every nationality and every religion whom we revere as saints, have held this view. A whole Bhakti movement crossing religious frontiers has held this view. It is human beings who are in need of religion. A mountain does not have a religion. A tree does not have a religion. A block of land has no religion. Therefore there is a nonsensical fallacy about giving land masses a religious identity and calling them a Muslim country, or a Hindu country, or a Jewish country. The nation-state has no role to play in the intensely personal relationship between an individual and God. This personal view of religion is thrown aside by fundamentalism. For the fundamentalist, the state – which is a political entity – rules over religion.

Added to the fallacy of a nation giving itself a religion, is the fact that religion everywhere has been boiled down into laws and rules made by men. The Manusmriti which is considered a dharmashastra, dates from around 200 BC, and is believed to have been written by Brahmin males over a period of time. It leaves us in no doubt about its upper caste masculine authorship. Central to the laws it lays down about how a society should be run is the inferior position it gives to women, defining a woman’s role as subservient to her husband, and her only duty being, to serve and please him. One translation defines a ‘good’ woman  in these words: ‘Though he may be bereft of virtue, given to lust, and totally devoid of good qualities, a good woman should always worship her husband like a god.’

Offensive as this sounds to our contemporary ears, doesn’t this attitude still survive, and even flourish, in various degrees in our culture today? Our male-inspired cultural practices have come out of this sexist frame of mind. Has there ever been any cultural practice more inhuman and barbaric than sati? No husband was ever burned alive on his wife’s dead body. This duty was reserved for wives. And as far as other punishments are concerned, we have never heard of a man being stoned to death for adultery.  And of course female infanticide and foetal killing have been common and they still go on. The heavy hand of male dominance and male superiority is ingrained and embedded as a divine right in the mindset that has been imposed upon our people, making women inferior beings according to the laws laid down by men. And the laws which this authority lays down for Dalits in the caste system must be as offensive and obnoxious since Ambedkar and E.V. Ramasamy ‘Periyar’ both publicly burned the Manusmriti in the 1920’s.

I will now come to what women are up against today, in the background of this ingrained mindset, which now has the backing of religious fundamentalism.

Nayantara Sehgal, Justice Sunanda Bhandare Memorial Lecture

File photo Nayantara Sahgal. Credit: Wikimedia Commons

There is no greater danger to the meaning of religion than when it is made use of as a weapon of war. When it takes this turn and becomes militant, it loses the right to be called religion.  It becomes a political policy for national reasons. In this garb, it has been the most divisive and destructive force in history. This happened in Europe in the sixteenth century’s religious wars – Catholic against Protestant – based on an intolerance of religious differences – but an intolerance that had more to do with an assertion of political power and pressure than with religion.  And this is the mindset that is at work in India today, which rejects religious differences and calls for a single national religion. Again, the rising graph of rapes shows us the way this demand is affecting Indian women.

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Rape is nothing new. It happens in the home, within what is known as the sanctity of marriage. And stories of mass rapes in shelter homes have come to us. All this in peacetime,  and it has always been a weapon of war.  But what we are seeing today is a valorisation of rape, and a justification of it, as of the mass rapes by Pakistan’s armies when they invaded East Bengal during the war for Bangladesh, or in the atrocities during the Partition.  And now we are looking at the same phenomenon here, of rape and murder of a particular community,  the intention being to alter the population figures, in this case by cutting down the Muslim population figures.  We are looking at religious fundamentalism in its modern meaning, assisted in places by the use of modern technology.  A beginning was made with the massacre of mainly Muslims in Gujarat in 2002, and now we keep hearing of assaults and assassinations.

These assaults have several features in common: They are, without exception, well organised. They are often committed by gangs. They do not spare children, or infants, or unborn babies. And when possible, the families of victims are also killed.  They are also, without exception,  accompanied by prolonged and horrific torture.  These have been described – in fact, we have seen some attacks on men on TV – and otherwise  they have been described by some of the women who have gone through them and survived, to investigators who have taken up their cases, and they are so horrifying that I will spare you the details by not reading out the women’s testimonies that have come to light. So there is a pattern to these events. I should add that this inhumanity has long targeted  Dalits and tribals – as the writers Mahashweta Devi, and Kiran Nagarkar, and others, have shown us so vividly in their unforgettable fiction.  Hindus, who will not support such acts or such an ideology, have also been targeted, and there are instances of non-Muslim Indians who, at risk to themselves, have tried to protect their Muslim neighbours.

Yet another fact that is common to the attacks on Muslim men and women by those who have been indoctrinated in fundamentalism is that they have not been regarded as crimes, if we look at the official, and in general,  the public silence about them, and at what happens when justice is sought by victims or their families in these cases. Typically there has been a delay, or no action, by the police in acknowledging that they took place, and in arresting the criminals who have been named by their victims. In some cases, victims have been threatened with punishment if they name names, and there are even cases of the families of murdered victims being held responsible for the crimes committed upon them or against them. The police have also suppressed or tampered with evidence, and in some cases, the indifference of witnesses in the villages and towns where mob violence took place have made convictions difficult or impossible.  Then, standing out from the general official silence, there has been the very vocal support of well-known legislators for these crimes.

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I have said these are features that are common to the crimes committed by the fundamentalist mindset, and I will enumerate these from one case, now well known, of Bilkis Bano, because it has all these features. It attracted public attention because of the extraordinary persistence and courage of this young survivor of incredible brutality. As the only survivor and eyewitness of a massacre that took place,  she went on fighting for justice.

On May 3, 2002, in a post-Godhra riot-hit area of Ahmedabad,  Bilkis Bano and her family – 17 of them – were in a truck, trying, like thousands of Hindu and Muslim families, to escape to a safer place, when a mob attacked the truck. Bilkis was 19 years old. She had a two-year-old daughter, and she herself was five months pregnant.  Her daughter was smashed to death on a rock. The female members of her family were gang-raped and killed. Altogether 14 of her family were murdered. Bilkis herself was stripped and gang-raped by 12 men and left to die. She recovered consciousness hours later and saw her family’s dead bodies lying around her. She covered herself with what clothes she could find and went looking desperately for help and shelter. She found shelter with a tribal family who were fearful for themselves but they took her in. Later, when she saw a police van she begged for protection and was taken to a police station. There she lodged a complaint and gave the names of her rapists. The police refused to accept the names and told her that if she spoke out she would be taken to a government hospital and given a poisonous injection. They then falsified her evidence and made her put her thumbprint on it. Her complaint was dismissed and her case was closed for want of evidence.

Later she went to the National Human Rights Commission for help and they backed her petition in the Supreme Court. The court ordered a CBI enquiry, shifted the trial of her case from Gujarat to Mumbai, and the bodies of her family members were exhumed and examined. Finally, 14 years after the slaughter, 13 of the 20 men she had accused – including the police who had falsified her evidence and the two doctors who had suppressed evidence in the post-mortems – were found guilty and 11 of them were given life sentences for rape and murder. The 12th rapist had died. The verdict was delivered on May 4, 2017. Vrinda Grover, human rights activist and senior advocate at the Supreme Court, has pointed out that the conviction of the policemen and doctors who were found guilty showed, and I quote, that “there was institutional  state complicity in sexual violence.” Bilkis meanwhile had been under threat of attack. She had had to keep changing her place of residence for her own safety, but she had refused to give up her search for justice.

Fanaticism of this selective kind, targeting a particular community has not been confined to India. It took place during the civil war in Yugoslavia in the 1990’s, in a highly organised manner. Muslim women from Bosnia, Albania, and Croatia were kept confined in camps where Christian Serbs raped them. This selectivity, here as in Yugoslavia or elsewhere, has a specific purpose. It is aimed at ethnic cleansing and is part of a policy to alter population figures by denying a particular community its right to exist. The persecution of the Rohingya is also a case in point, along with the rape of Rohingya women that has been going on in Myanmar.

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All these examples come under the label of crimes against humanity. The term was first used in the Nuremberg trials after World War Two and it was defined as follows: ‘a deliberate act, typically as part of a systematic campaign that causes human suffering or death on a large scale.’ The International Criminal Court says these crimes against humanity include: murder, torture, sexual violence, persecution against a group, and other acts causing injury to the body, or to mental or physical health. They can be committed by non-state groups, or paramilitary forces, or individuals, in peacetime or wartime, either as part of government policy, or condoned by a government. It is important that such crimes be recognised and labelled by international law, since many governments around the world have denied that any such thing has happened in their countries. One of the cases which our own government and our public have not acknowledged, or taken steps to provide relief or justice to the sufferers, is the mob attack on Christians ten years ago in Kandhamal that killed more than a hundred Christians, destroyed their homes, schools, churches, and made thousands of them homeless. Similarly, the United States has never acknowledged the outbreak of lynchings of black Americans in the  American South in the early part of the 20th century.

What makes people behave in this way? What makes such crimes possible? How can they be committed on this scale, and repeatedly, and then be brushed aside, or forgotten, or treated as justifiable? This is an interesting question- political and psychological – for us to think about in view of what is happening here. A philosophy professor at Yale University, Dr Jason Stanley, has made a study of why and how such a situation of intolerance and Right-wing extremism has arisen in different countries across the world and is making itself felt in many countries today. He has written about it in a book called How Propaganda Works,  and a second book that is about to be published called How Fascism Works. He says that the ground is first prepared so that a mood can be created that makes hatred and violence acceptable to society. And there is a standard formula by which this is accomplished, and it is a formula that is common to all such breakdowns of democracy wherever they have occurred and are now occurring. The method is as follows:

  1. The values of liberty and equality have to be replaced by authority and hierarchy – hierarchy which is ethnic, or religious, or gender-based. The dominant group, ie. the majority community, is made to feel it is being victimised by minority groups. This builds up a mood of hysteria against minorities, and in some cases against socialism and communism. In this atmosphere, the nation’s leader and the military are glorified, and dissenters are treated harshly.
  2. The truth has to be destroyed and this is done by spreading a fear of so-called outsiders and so-called enemies of the state. And this is done by appealing to the emotions and cutting out all rational debate. Conspiracy theories are manufactured and an irrational fear is let loose. When this happens there is a complete breakdown of the truth. A myth has taken its place.

This is how Professor Stanley describes the myth that replaces the truth: “The myth of a glorious bygone era, where the nation was supposedly ethnically or religiously pure, and rural patriarchal values reigned supreme…Outgroups are represented as threats to the dominant culture (and) its men are cast as criminals or sexual predators…”  This myth places one ethnic group over others, men are placed over women, and all opposition is called anti-national. On this prepared ground the mood that has been built up in society sanctions all kinds of behaviour that would not be acceptable otherwise. And obviously, there is no place for liberty, equality, or democracy, or the give-and-take of democratic politics, in this situation. In a chilling conclusion, he says: “History shows that such propaganda licenses extreme brutality.” One recent example, about a month ago comes from Germany where a Syrian migrant was attacked by three men in a park and whipped with an iron chain. And Germany has seen the biggest riot against ‘outsiders’  in 26 years where the rioters have given the Hitler salute and hurled missiles. Hitler-worship now celebrates the most terrible era in German history. What should deeply disturb us is how accurately Professor Stanley’s analysis explains what is happening here.

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At a time when human rights are in such poor shape in India, let me acknowledge the debt we owe to the contribution of an Indian woman, Hansa Mehta, to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. There was no such concept as human rights until the end of the Second World War and for the non-Western world, with large chunks of it under colonial rule, there was no question of any rights at all. It was because of the atrocities committed during the Second World War, and during the period leading up to it, that the concept was finally addressed. Hansa Mehta had been one of the 15 women who had helped to shape the Indian Constitution, and it was her absolute insistence on sexual equality that influenced the language of our Constitution. She had been a trail-blazer in the field of women’s rights in India and had been part of a Committee to draft the Hindu Code Bill, which as we know was a major reform after independence, and had a major impact on women’s lives. As a delegate to the UN Commission on Human Rights in 1947-48, it was Hansa Mehta who changed the phrase “All men are born free and equal” to “All human beings are born free and equal”.

It took a woman to realise that this change of wording was crucial if whole societies were to be shaken out of masculine dominance. And to go further back, it is the determined struggle of Indian women reformers fighting for equality since the nineteenth century onward – not just for women’s rights, but against the cruelties and injustices of caste – that has brought us to where we stand today. And, of course, the fight is far from over. Under religious fundamentalism, the minorities are feeling hunted. The poor and helpless among them, some of whom have been driven out of their villages and homes and jobs, live in terror. And India is no longer safe for its women.

I have spoken as a Hindu and I am one of the millions of Indians who practise their different religions. At independence our founding fathers had the wisdom to respect this diversity, and to declare India secular and democratic –  democracy to guarantee equal citizenship with equal rights, and secularism to provide the space and fresh air for the practice of all religions and different ways of life and thought. No other nation in the world gave its people democracy before development, or its women, the right to vote at the very start of nationhood. And no other country has achieved the multi-cultural miracle that is the meaning of Indian civilisation. There is no room for religious fundamentalism among us. It is an insult to religion, a danger to all who disagree with it, and a frontal attack on the Constitution.

The Justice Sunanda Bhandare Foundation, set up in 1994 to honour Sunanda Bhandare, the youngest woman judge of the Delhi high court, organises an annual memorial lecture on November 1, Sunanda’s birth anniversary called the “Justice Sunanda Bhandare Memorial Lecture” to advance her principles of gender parity and justice. 

Nayantara Sahgal is an Indian writer, winner of the 1986 Sahitya Akademi Award and the niece of Jawaharlal Nehru. 

This article was originally published on Indian Cultural Forum. Read the original article here

After Modi’s Jibes, Rahul Gandhi Dares BJP to Pass Women’s Reservation Bill

This request comes on the back of Modi’s comments at rally in Azamgarh in Uttar Pradesh where the PM repeated an incorrect statement which had claimed that Rahul Gandhi had said that the Congress is a ‘Muslim party’ and lashed out at the party for standing for Muslim men only.

New Delhi: The Women’s Reservation Bill, which has gained notoriety for being one of the longest pending legislations in the Indian parliament, got vocal support from Congress president Rahul Gandhi on Monday.

In a letter addressed to Prime Minister Narendra Modi, Gandhi wrote, “I write to you to request your support to ensure the passage of the Women’s Reservation Bill in the upcoming monsoon session of parliament.”

Gandhi’s challenge to the BJP comes less than a week before the monsoon session is scheduled to begin. The Bill was first passed in 2010 under the then UPA government in the Rajya Sabha, but has yet to get a clearance in the Lok Sabha. According to Gandhi, the Bill “has been stalled in the Lok Sabha for over eight years on one pretext or the other”.

Reminding Modi that one of the BJP’s key promises in its 2014 election manifesto was to get the Bill passed and implemented, Gandhi stressed on how there is no “better way to demonstrate commitment other than offering unconditional support to the passage of the Women’s Reservation Bill”.

“Mr. Prime Minister, in many of your public rallies you have spoken about your passion for empowering women and involving them more meaningfully in public life… What better time, than the upcoming session of parliament? Any further delay will make it impossible to implement before the next general elections,” Gandhi wrote.

This request comes on the back of Modi’s comments at rally in Azamgarh in Uttar Pradesh, where the prime minister was laying the foundation stone for the 340-km Purvanchal Expressway. He criticised the Congress over its stand on triple talaq and asked if the party only stood for Muslim men and not Muslim women.

Modi said, “I have read in newspaper the Congress president has said that Congress is a party of Muslims, I am not surprised by this. All I want to ask is, is their party only for Muslim men or for women too?”

His speech earned him a lot of pain on social media as he had based it on a statement incorrectly attributed to Congress president Rahul Gandhi that had been printed by an Urdu daily reportedly owned by the Dainik Jagran group. The report had alleged that Gandhi scion had said that the Congress was a ‘Muslim party’.

“Is there any place for the dignity and the rights of Muslim women? They have stalled legislation in the parliament and they do not allow parliament to run,” Modi said in his speech. “I am not surprised because during the previous government, the then PM Manmohan Singhji had himself said that Muslims had the first claim on the natural resources of the country,” he said.

In response, the Congress issued a tweet which broke down the party’s stand on the Bill.

The party also accused him of lying to the nation.

He wasn’t the only BJP minister to fall for the fake news. Defence minister Nirmala Sitharaman had said last week that the “Congress party is playing a dangerous game, playing communal division, playing up the card of religion. It is frightening that it may lead to the kind of division and kind of communal disharmony that prevailed during the 1947 partition. Congress party shall be solely responsible if any disharmony plays out between now and the 2019 elections”.

“You can’t be janeu-dhari (a Hindu who wears the sacred thread) at one point… Muslim-dhari at another… This is playing with the people’s trust,” Sitharaman said at a media briefing in reference to the Congress describing Gandhi as a janeu-dhari Hindu after there was some political squabbling over his religion during a visit to Somnath temple In Gujarat.

Sitharaman had taken umbrage to a report that Gandhi had met with several Muslim intellectuals. Farah Navi wrote for The Wire: “The tone and tenor in which the defence minister Nirmala Sitharaman said the words – ‘Mussslim intellectuals’ – with venomous, contemptuous emphasis, left no one in any doubt about her feelings for this group of Indian citizens”.

A couple of months, Modi had made similar jibes at a rally in Karnataka, where he described Congress’ move to oppose the ‘triple talaq’ bill in Rajya Sabha as a “marker of its anti-women mindset”.